Mark Fielding (PGDip. Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, CPCAB Level 5, Diploma Relationship Counselling, Diploma Buddhist Psychology)
I am an Integrative Psychotherapist and Relationship Counsellor and I have many years experience in working with individuals and couples. I have also, previously, worked as a senior harassment advisor in a West London Foundation Trust Hospital NHS (for over ten years) and as a Relationship Counsellor for Relate. A registered member of the BACP I currently work in private practice. I realise that, initially, approaching a therapist can seem daunting. My therapeutic approach is very down to earth; which I hope puts my clients at ease. Over the last 13 years I have worked with most problems that people can experience.
I adhere to BACP ethical guidelines and have ongoing monthly clinical supervision.
I work collaboratively with Individuals. I treat everybody as an individual because we are all different and unique. I aim to provide a safe and secure environment where I can support you in developing greater self-awareness and understanding of the conscious and unconscious causes of your problems. I consider therapy to be a joint process; I wont tell you what to do but will rather engage with you in exploring the dilemmas that you seek to address. I will listen to you and ask questions, suggest possible patterns and link these to the past, suggest techniques that may be helpful in coping in the short term and work with you in understanding what is happening, why it is happening and then working on new ways of being.
I have a particular interest in working with HSPs (Highly Sensitive People) and I have worked with many over the years.
It is likely that couples coming to therapy have brought relating patterns from their own childhood experiences. Some of these are positive and help to sustain and evolve our relationships whilst other behaviours have no place in the present. As humans we tend to repeat behaviours unconsciously. Becoming aware of the way we relate provides us with a choice. A choice to do something new rather than endlessly repeating a pattern that we learnt as children or was passed down to us - possibly through generations. As part of the therapy, we would often look at these generational patterns and explore the messages and beliefs that the partners may have internalised unconsciously and how these beliefs come together within the relationship dynamic. It is often useful to explore such areas as communication styles, conflict management, negotiation around difference, parenting styles, personality types - and how these interact, issues around sex, money and extended family, cultural differences, gender differences and other areas of potential difference which are socially constructed. We may explore future projections for the couple and also, importantly, what is working well within the relationship - sometimes couples in conflict can lose sight of the positive aspects of the relationship when becoming problem focused, over time. Perhaps unresolved trauma, depression or anxiety in one or both of the partners is creating difficulty in relating.
I find that the use of mindfulness techniques can be helpful to some clients. With practice, mindfulness can assist us in making great changes to habitual patterns, which seem out of our control, are causing us to be unhappy and preventing us from living the life that we would wish to.
I often draw on the research findings and practices of Positive Psychology in my work with clients. Looking at the issues that are making us unhappy is, of course, at the heart of therapy but it is often helpful to also explore practices that can lead to increased happiness moving forwards.
I have worked with many LGBTQI+ clients and welcome both individuals and couples from the LGBTQI+ community.
I am experienced in working with clients wishing to explore and/or transition their gender identity.
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